FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE
It’s easy to focus on all the negative things your spouse does. Or on all the stuff they forget to do. Or on the fact that your spouse is often away from home in the eve-ning, works long hours, etc. The more we think about the negative, the more frustrated, upset, or disappointed we feel. Satan wants to destroy our marriages and knows that even the most minor negative things—when dwelt upon—can cause trouble, bitterness, and distance. But don’t let him win!
Choose to think about the positive. Choose to focus on the good qualities about your spouse. Consider writing down five things every day that you are thankful for re-garding your spouse. Choose to affirm your spouse for their hard work, dedication, and provision. Look for ways to cheer your spouse on, especially when they are under stress or facing a difficult situation. When you are around other people, look for ways to build up your spouse. Choose to not repeatedly bring up their past faults, espe-cially if they have asked for your forgiveness and desire a new start. Talk together and seek solutions for the things of significance, and be willing to let go of the insignificant.
This may be difficult at first, but you will be amazed by the result of your change in focus. It will very likely affect your spouse positively, but more important, your love and appreciation for your spouse will grow. In addition, your forgiveness and grace toward your spouse will increase. You will find yourself overlooking the small an-noyances and focusing on the blessings of your marriage!
“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things” (Philippians 4:8, NKJV).
