Personal Spiritual Retreat

Reasons to go on a personal spiritual retreat with God.

DON MACLAFFERTY. Don’s top four roles in his life are: a disciple of Jesus Christ; a husband to his wife, April; a dad and life mentor to their three children; and a visionary leader in discipling children, youth, and families to Christ. Don has celebrated over 23 years with April as his wife. They have served God together in pastoral ministry for most of those years. In 2002 Don founded Kids In Discipleship as a pastor at the Collegedale Seventh-day Adventist Church. Don is passionate about family, leading young and old to discover and live God’s dreams, and developing leaders who are called by God to champion these priorities. Don lives in Ooltewah, Tennessee, with April, Jason, Julie, and Jessica. As a pastor in the Georgia-Cumberland Conference he continues to pioneer intergenerational discipleship with families, churches, and schools. Don can be reached at [email protected].

WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO GO ON A PERSON­AL RETREAT WITH GOD?

  • To experience more of God
  • To enjoy His peace and rest
  • To review how God has provided for you in the past
  • To receive God’s perspective on your life’s roles
  • To discover more of God’s agenda for your life
  • To engage in Holy Spirit-led planning

Henry Blackaby, in Spiritual Leadership, states that we often make plans and then ask God to bless our plans. Seek God’s agenda first, and then ask His blessing on it.

WHAT CAN YOU DO TO PREPARE?

1. Environment. Choose a distraction-free environment (examples: out in nature, motel near a state park, cabin in a state park, etc.). Go overnight somewhere. Plan for two parts of a day with a night in between.

2. Prayer Partners. Ask the treasured people in your life to intercede for you during your retreat. You may want to also pick a prayer partner who will intercede during your retreat and with whom you can get together after the retreat to debrief your experi­ence. Choose someone of your same gender who is faithful to God and knows God’s Word. Get their honest feedback on what happened.

3. Food. Bring your food and water with you. Do not go out to eat in a restaurant. Free yourself of distractions. Eat simply. Avoid excessive sweets and oils. Eat basic fruits, nuts, grains, vegetables. Con­sider fasting.

4. Media. Fast from the media.

5. Materials. A Bible and a journal. (If you keep a prayer journal, bring it to reflect on what God is do­ing in your life. If you do not keep a journal, take one to record your reflections and ideas that God brings to your mind.)

HOW CAN YOU MAKE THIS RETREAT MEANING­FUL?

1. Be. Slow down from your busy pace. Hike. Take time to just BE. This may take an hour or two. (If you have a long drive to your destination, that may be your slow down time.) Let go of business and pressures. Make yourself available to God. (Tell Him that.) See Ps. 46:10.

2. Praise. Spend time praising God for who He is and, secondly, celebrating what He’s presently do­ing in your life. Note the times over the past year that God has provided for you, blessed you, and encour­aged you. See Ps. 92: 1, 2.

3. Confess. Make things right with God. Sur­render your attitude, desires, and heart to Him. You may need to make a call to someone you have wronged. Go into the rest of the retreat feeling good and restful in spirit. See 1 John 1:9.

4. Feed your mind. After confession, spend time in the Bible. This is God’s Word to you. Read His promises to you. Reflect on stories of Bible charac­ters of great faith. Here are a few options for promises and stories to study and reflect on in God’s Word:

  • Ephesians 3:20
  • Philippians 4:13, 19
  • James 1:5; 4:2
  • 2 Corinthians 9:6-11
  • Noah – Fearless end-time prophet who took God at His word
  • Joseph – Fierce loyalty to God in the midst of darkness and injustice
  • Job – Faith during adversity and loss
  • Ruth – Devotion, investing in relationships, love story
  • Nehemiah – Building what others say cannot be built
  • Esther – One who seized the day for God
  • Daniel – Integrity, strategic influence for God’s purposes
  • Elijah – Faced a showdown with God’s strength
  • Paul – Bold pioneer for the Good News of Christ
  • Philip – Following the Holy Spirit to “barren” places

5. Dialogue. List your life roles. (Examples: dis­ciple of Christ, spouse, parent, son, daughter, grand­parent, neighborhood friend, leader, coach, etc.) Con­centrate on your top four to eight roles. Review your roles with God and what is happening in these roles right now. Ask God what you can celebrate. Ask God what He thinks needs to change. Ask God which one or two things you need to do in each role to be faithful to what He has entrusted to you. God has vision for the roles He has entrusted to you ... so ask Him.

6. Listen, Plan, and Reflect. Take breaks to hike, listen, and pray. Jot down reflections on what God brings to your mind. Sleep on it. Spread out your reflections and convictions before God. Ask God: “This is what I am seeing—am I understanding what You want me to see?” Review and add to what you have. Let God’s wisdom on your life roles impact the way you accept or reject the opportunities before you. Will your life decisions help you be more or less faith­ful to the roles He has entrusted to you? Always test the insights you receive with the written Word of God.

7. Claim God’s promises to accomplish His will. Thank him. See Phil. 4:13, 19.

8. Debrief with one of the prayer partners who prayed for you while you were on your retreat. Share how God blessed you. Share what God is asking of you in your life roles for the coming year. Invite hon­est feedback. Ask him/her to pray that you will follow through with God’s leading in your life.

You may find that the Holy Spirit may impress you to spend this retreat in other ways than you have planned. Please take this process and outline as sim­ply a place to begin. May God richly bless your re­treat with His peace, guidance, and Presence.

If you would like me to be praying for you on the day of your retreat, e-mail me with your date. May the time lead you to be fearlessly faithful to God.

DON MACLAFFERTY. Don’s top four roles in his life are: a disciple of Jesus Christ; a husband to his wife, April; a dad and life mentor to their three children; and a visionary leader in discipling children, youth, and families to Christ. Don has celebrated over 23 years with April as his wife. They have served God together in pastoral ministry for most of those years. In 2002 Don founded Kids In Discipleship as a pastor at the Collegedale Seventh-day Adventist Church. Don is passionate about family, leading young and old to discover and live God’s dreams, and developing leaders who are called by God to champion these priorities. Don lives in Ooltewah, Tennessee, with April, Jason, Julie, and Jessica. As a pastor in the Georgia-Cumberland Conference he continues to pioneer intergenerational discipleship with families, churches, and schools. Don can be reached at [email protected].